Pants-to-Church Sunday left me a bit bruised. But then when we do spend time together I have an absolute blast and everything just goes so well that I end up liking him even more. It won't be easy with the lower salary but it will be better than the alternative. Before I met my husband I had dated quite a few members and some relationships were quite serious but I never felt right about it. I am often kind of waiting around until the last minute for him to contact me and let me know when he's free or I have to pursue him, which doesn't make me feel like he's very into me. My 16 year old daughter told her Bishop who made that comment, that she thought her dad was great just the way he was. That contributes to status in her culture. No beliefs are protected from challenge, the rules of evidence, or derision. Its great to hear advice from those who know. He often tells me how happy he is to return to a clean home, warm meal, and me in the doorway-and I think that makes residency all the more bearable for him.
I stand by my original statement. I learned to read by reading the Book of Mormon. Soon you'll feel better, because you're not alone. Thanks again for the help. They do exist and you deserve that. But he's got to know the aggravation and pain that he likely will face. She will be surprised that a non-Mormon holds the same values she does and respect you. He also brought up issues with the church when we discussed religion so slowly he brought to light some disturbing facts and even though I would have denied it, it got to me. He has let me be a stay-at-home mother while trying to launch my own business and has offered love and support every step of the way. Topics like race and polygamy have been "adequately" explained away, so I don't think we'd get anywhere discussing those things.
Response to your edit: Do NOT bring up or mention anything that could be considered "anti Mormon. Sorry, you can't reply to this topic. OP Have you seen the Brother Jake videos. It would likely be seen as a trial in her life. How do you feel about that. They might be disappointed, or overjoyed, or judgmental, or supportive. I hope it all works out for you. The church really needs to tailor to more partial LDS families, imho. So, kudos to you for having such a wonderful relationship for so long and getting through step 1 and 2 and matching. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
I know a non-Mormon guy who married a Mormon woman and has kept her beautiful and desirable, by encouraging her religious involvement, even though he avoided Mormonism himself. Of course, it will cause fights, as well. And sometimes I think we equate easiness with happiness.