When did you get your first vibrator? Woman A: I got my first vibrator as a gag Secret Santa gift from a coworker friend at my high school job at a pizza place! Woman B: I was 21, in college. I was super drunk. And we all bought vibrators. Woman C: I was 22 or 23, the year or so after graduating college. Woman D: I was My boyfriend at the time bought it for me at the checkout counter of a sex toy shop. Woman A: It was glow in the dark, the cheap wand kind you get from Spencer's. Woman B: Ack, I can't even remember.
It was similar to the rabbit? I think it might have been an imitation. Was getting it a positive experience? Woman A: It was a fun gift to receive — I didn't have to go buy one myself! Weird, since she's pretty sex-positive. Woman B: I mean, it was OK. I didn't really use it that often. It felt depressing to use instead of a man. Woman C: Purchasing it was uncomfortable — I didn't want to go into a brick and mortar store or order online from a sex shop in case the packaging was obvious, so I ordered one online from Drugstore.
Once it arrived it was a positive experience! Woman D: It was a strange experience. Already I was out of my comfort zone being at the sex toy shop in the first place, but we were there to get him a new butt plug and to find a harness that would fit me. The whole education of sex toys was too much at once that day, but him buying that treat for me kind of felt like I had evolved into the next level of adulthood. Had you had orgasms before you got it?
Woman D: Yes, I somehow managed to find the few good ones under the age of 25 who could give really good head. How was it the first time you used it? Woman A: I think the vibrations were a little too strong. Those cheap wand vibes feel really mechanical. Woman B: Eh, I don't think I had a better orgasm. Woman C: It felt cool, different. I remember being worried I wouldn't enjoy sex with a guy as much as it.
Woman D: System overload! It was almost too harsh a vibration to enjoy. But with a little careful maneuvering I learned to cherish it. Is it more focused on clitoral or G-spot stimulation? Woman B: It did both, but I wish I had gotten one that was only G-spot stimulation because I like doing the clitoris part myself.
Maybe it's because I'm a control freak? I'm even that way in bed with men. I mean, it's hot to have my boyfriend fingering me during sex, but I'd honestly prefer to do it myself. Have you ever had a bad experience with a sex toy? Woman A: Not really bad, but I'm not a fan of the rabbit-style vibes. G-spot stimulation makes me feel more like I have to pee than orgasm. Woman B: Not really, because I don't use them any more.
Woman D: Yes. I wanted to get my first boyfriend a sex toy but not knowing what was a weird Spencer's gag gift and what was a bonafide sex toy, I opted for the quickest and cheapest option: a penis ring. It was too small on him and inhibited my sexual pleasure since intercourse stopped at the ring. Woman A: No, I have male partners and I've never wanted another penetrable in the mix, and I don't use them by myself since I prefer clit simulation for solo activities. Woman B: No, I prefer to use my hand. Woman D: Not on myself but on my partners, yes.
Has a partner ever suggested using a sex toy you didn't want to use? Woman B: Nope, I think I'd be pretty open to trying anything. But I've had pretty vanilla-y boyfriends, so they've never even suggested it. Woman C: Partners have put the ideas in my head, but never forced usage on me. The encouragement has always been about finding ways to make me feel good. Woman D: Yes, my ex had a collection of xxl dildos for his ass and liked me to wear them on a harness.
It wasn't the pegging that I felt uncomfortable with, one was so ungodly massive it hurt me emotionally to use it on him. I thought I was going to hurt him! Do you feel like you enjoy non-sex-toy sex more or less since you started using sex toys? Woman A: If anything, I enjoy non-sex-toy sex more. Toys feel really good but it's enjoyable to feel that good with only biological toys! Woman B: I definitely prefer non-sex-toy sex.
Woman C: I'd say both about the same. Both experiences can be really rewarding and feel amazing. Depends on the moods of my partner and myself. Woman D: I definitely enjoy sex just as is, no toys, no vibes. I just feel it's more intimate and personal. For me toys are a great way to occasionally spruce up a routine or to mark a special occasion.
Do you think it's possible to use sex toys too often? Woman A: Theoretically, since I've never heard of this problem. Like anything, I think if it gets in the way, it might become a problem.
Woman B: Ha, no. Definitely not. I mean, was that SATC episode supposed to be based on real life? Had Charlotte never had a good orgasm before? I thought that was so weird.
I mean, if you've never had a good orgasm before and you're 35 and you get one from a sex toy, I think you should be blowing off all your friends all the time to use it. You're simply making up for lost time. Woman C: If it feels good for you, then no! As long it's not replacing intimacy or sex with a partner if you're in a relationship.
Woman D: I will say I feel differently when it comes to solo sex. I do not think it is possible for one to use sex toys too much on just themselves. Have your partners known that you have a sex toy? Woman B: Yes. My college boyfriend knew about the vibrator. Woman D: I don't have a massive collection, maybe vibrators, all quite small. I'm working on amassing my collection still. But yes, all serious partners knew I had a toy. Woman A: Haven't minded at all.
Probably they were turned on by it! Woman B: He didn't care and thought it was hot. Woman C: Excited about it. My current boyfriend just sent me a new one since he's currently deployed and not physically with me.
It makes him feel like he's part of what makes me feel good, despite not being around. In a way, I think it intimidates them. Like, they know that when they go back home, I will still be taken care of. Makes them try harder next time we're in bed. Do you enjoy using a vibrator or sex toy, or your hand or a pillow or whatever more? Woman A: I enjoy a vibrator more because it feels better, but my hand will never fail me and it's silent!
Woman A: A vibrator is a no-fail orgasm for me, but having intercourse is almost a guarantee since my broken vibe hasn't been replaced.