I do not text or call him frequently-- I'll send him the occasional message, but generally I let him initiate contact and dictate the pace. I, too, am the wife of a doctor dermatology resident. I get looking ahead, but it seems like you are very unhappy with the way things are now. Based on what you have written about your GF, my opinion is that you should cut your losses and move on. With so much pervasive degeneracy in the media, Mormon parents think they are safe showing their kids Disney movies. If she won't reason with your investigation of the church, nope on out and go on your merry way. Don't forget too that IF you are successful in turning the lights on and deconverting her, the family would resent you the rest of their lives. Every new set in our ward looks at him as fresh meat. I wanted very much to make it work with us, and was willing to compromise in areas that I normally wouldn't. That's all we're really saying.
Over the years, it would have felt increasingly burdensome to accommodate practices that seemed to me like superstition. It works, though, because I know that his beliefs have great worth.
Cousin the same age who just got married has known her husband 6 months. I have missed the Church in some ways, and certainly the blessings of a temple marriage. I think Bob, the answer can be found in your comment. We are trying to work together to live together in 3 years but since we are homosexuals and in an arabic country its kinda hard to try to live here so we have to wait for her to graduate to get out of here. Right off the bat, I have to admit that being married and committed to our marriage has been of utmost importance for my husband and I - throughout all of his training. And to top things off, last night I caught him cheating. Unconditional love, excellent communication, and unwavering support. You might start drinking to ease the pain. Topics like race and polygamy have been "adequately" explained away, so I don't think we'd get anywhere discussing those things. All this said, God is love and fully understands and appreciates your problem.
It may not seem like a big deal now, but eventually it will probably surface that at best, the church impacts and influences her behavior in almost every area, at worst, it dictates it. When I was 19, my boyfriend considered himself an atheist. It won't be easy. Until our marriage, I was living a care free life when I would do things as I please. Then she can have a chance to actually be the individual she is, and they can have an adult conversation about their future and whether or not they have one. Most want nothing to do with the church. He was gone by 6: I was left to manage the house, the finances, the kids' schedules and what little time was left over for my own interests. It MAY be true that a year in, her shelf will crack and she'll leave with him. Now look at the flip side в if he loves you, and realizes you fully believe, how will he deal with the importance of the temple to you. If you think your girlfriend's resistance to being exposed to anything critical of Mormonism sounds cult-like, you are right.
An interfaith marriage can be done well or disastrously, or even only being made up as you go. This came about after many hours and many days of prayer, scripture study, going to the temple, receiving a priesthood blessing, and speaking with people I greatly trust my mom, especially.
If she can see that YOU are what is important in the relationship, not what you or she believes, ya'll have a chance.