Gay conversion therapy has been universally denounced. Yet still we experiment on young people with dubious diagnoses and radical treatments whose long-term consequences are, as yet, unknown. Recently the NHS was called upon by the Equality and Human Rights Commission to preserve the fertility of young trans people by banking their sperm and eggs. Unreported was the bleak. Subscription Notification. We have noticed that there is an issue with your subscription billing details. Please update your billing details here. Please update your billing information. The subscription details associated with this account need to be updated. Please update your billing details here to continue enjoying your subscription.
The reaction by the mother to her trans identified teenage daughter in this story is not the one the media promotes; all the usual ingredients are missing. But given the current climate where parents are condemned for anything other than complete acquiescence to the new transgender ideology, it stands out as an exceptional deviation from the new norm. It deserves to be shared widely. By the time she turned 12, 13, and then 14, there were no signs of boy crushes or any interest in socializing with boys. There was no makeup or hair styling or hogging the bathroom or fussing over what clothes to wear. She piled on weight, wore her hair severely tied back in a ponytail at the nape of her neck, refused to wear anything feminine. Anything with color in it got pushed to the back of her drawer. She was deeply embarrassed about menstruating. In billowing sweatshirts and loose clothing, she looked like a sack of potatoes. Adolescence is a time of intimacy and sexual experimentation and vulnerability.
Transgender youth are children or adolescents who do not identify with the gender assigned to them at birth. Because transgender youth are usually dependent on their parents for care, shelter, financial support, and other needs, and because most doctors are reluctant to provide medical treatments to them, transgender youth face different challenges compared to adults. Transgender issues manifest at different times in life in different individuals. In most cases of gender dysphoria , the condition is often apparent in early childhood, when such a child may express behavior in-congruent with and dissatisfaction related to their assigned gender. However, many of these children experience rejection as a result of their differences and quickly attempt to repress them. This repression may be cause for underreporting of dysphoria and depression. In many parts of the world, being transgender  is not widely accepted by the public and as for transgender youth, they not only face discrimination but also can encounter family exclusion. To "come out", according to Merriam-Webster,  means to openly declare something about oneself previously kept hidden or to openly declare one's homosexuality. For the LGBT community, to "come out" means to acknowledge one's sexual identity or gender identity and make it known to the public. Family acceptance holds a significant impact on the lives of transgender youth.
At the end of the long weekend when my daughter came out as transgender, she headed back to her car with her girlfriend. I watched them from my apartment window as they packed up. My child looked up, and waved. I closed the window. Tears rushed to my eyes. Follow us at nytopinion. I loved that child exactly as they had been.
The idea that this person was now going to be different made me think, at first, that something precious to me was being taken away. If it was a struggle for me, I can only imagine how hard it is for other parents. Unfortunately, what many other parents are receiving right now is not encouragement to find wisdom and understanding.
What they are getting instead is a bogus new diagnosis — Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria. The inventors of this spurious term claim that R. We are here because our hearts demand it. The term originated a few years ago on three blogs with a history of promoting anti-trans propaganda. I understand that because I am a parent who, in experiencing it, felt as if my heart was breaking. And we, trans people, need to understand that too. It was heartbreaking for my own mother, even though she told me love would prevail, and it was heartbreaking for me, in spite of — or because of — the fact that I am trans myself.
What was my problem, you ask? When I began to share my truth, almost 20 years ago, I spent a couple of years going around to people apologizing, begging for understanding, begging, at times, for forgiveness.
She has never apologized for who she is. Since she came out, her friends have reacted with joy and happiness for her, even — dare I say it? Their sense is that being trans is just one more way of being human, and surely no source of shame. Being queer is no longer something that needs to be tolerated, or accepted, or forgiven. It never was. What it is, is one more way of being human. They are not here to live our version of who we think they ought to be.
They are here to be themselves. When my child raised a hand to wave at me, my first thought was that my son was saying goodbye.
I was wrong. Then she drove off. This, of course, turned out to be malarkey. It was my daughter, saying hello.