Eternity is a long time. I'm a single, financially independent woman. You have to make the decision as to what you want your home and your children to have in that home. Maybe we'll break up in a month. I got married to a Mormon woman. I am a 40 year engineering graduate from one of best engineering colleges of the country I mention this becoz I want to stress the fact that I have a hard-earned career. The sons inevitably went inactive later in life. Trying to maintain a long-distance relationship with someone at home or attempting to date someone you meet while on mission are both distractions. But those days may be gone. But I loved this girl more than anything in life.
Should I marry him. Do you know his work hours, break time during work and where does he take break from work. So far I have been sad most of the time. There is still a chance you can work out your differences, but it will require major concessions on both sides. Because you are a good person, you will recognize the influence of the Holy Ghost and know that the church is true. In the interfaith marriages that work where one is LDS and the other is not religious, it only works out when the LDS partner is not fully a believer anymore. Your comment is SO spot on in my experience. It is the greatest sadness of her life. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this. You are atheist and that's not changing.
Here is a list of reasons I feel apply to my situation в some of them in retrospect:. Just know that she has been indoctrinated to believe that she wont reach the highest level of heaven if she isn't married in a Mormon temple to another Mormon. You will always be second place. You were a banker too. That contributes to status in her culture. It seems like a minor point, but I have noticed that every Mormon girl who disobeys the Mormon direction to avoid coffee has something majorly wrong with her. The doctrinal and afterlife issues around a non-temple marriage are an entirely different topic, and one that I am personally much more at peace with than my questions about how one might make an interfaith marriage work in this life. In addition to your religious leaders, there are counselors who specialize in interfaith couples. And he is reading one of my favorite Buddhist-based books, in an effort to understand my beliefs. No matter that he's married - maybe they can lure him away.
Mormonism is a religion that's as manipulative as it is comforting. And what happens when we have kids?. I'm busier than many people my age, but not as much as he is. So how do we approach saving a relationship with someone who has unrealistic expectations of what a long-term relationship looks like.